A Rollercoaster Romance: Learning and Growing Along the Way

You’ve likely heard the saying, “When it’s good, it’s great; when it’s bad, it’s the pits” — that pretty much sums up my last whirlwind of a relationship. MC and I were like a cosmic event; brilliant and breathtaking when everything clicked, but, let’s be honest, those moments were as rare as a perfectly aligned planetary parade.

Our relationship felt like the remnants of a comet’s journey — a stunning trail of cosmic dust left in the wake of something spectacular, yet the comet itself, MC, was a fleeting presence in my sky. Words fall short in describing this relationship; it might simply boil down to the fact that it wasn’t meant to be. We gave it our all, but at every turn, we just couldn’t find our rhythm. His quirks annoyed me, mine annoyed him, and compromise seemed like a foreign concept to us both.

Reflecting on it, this relationship stands out as the most incompatible and oddball experience I’ve ever had in my love life. Why does this one feel so different? I can’t quite put my finger on it. But I do know that when I hit the big 3-0, I made a couple of significant changes in my approach to dating:

a. I broadened my horizons. I noticed a pattern in my past relationships and wondered if breaking away from my usual ‘type’ might lead to different outcomes — preferably fewer heartbreaks.

b. I stopped tolerating nonsense. Gone are the days of ‘maybe’ or ‘possibly.’ Now, it’s a firm yes or no. I’ve grown more confident in my decisions and less likely to second-guess or backtrack.

Which of these led to the unique dynamic and subdued finale of this relationship, I’m not sure. What I am sure of, though, is that dating in my 30s has been an absolute revelation. The relationship was short-lived, and the breakup lacked drama, but hey, I’m loving this decade of my life.

The bright side? This journey in love is far from over. There’s a whole world of potential ‘frogs’ out there waiting for a chance. So, here’s to moving forward and embracing the adventures that await!

XOXO,

Johanny