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The best part of being single is…Now that I’m relishing my single status, I have noticed a real pep in my step, a Je ne se quois, a bit of peace and ease that I can move about in my space and time without worrying about another. I know it may sound a bit selfish, but it is quite freeing!
Thinking about my new status, I came up with ten things that are way better when you are single.
1. You get to have the bed all to yourself. I know there are all these cutesy-lovey-dovey pictures of couples cuddling up together and sleeping, but let’s be honest, NO ONE DOES THAT. When two people get into bed together, you both fall asleep after a while, and your sleeping habits kick in. So, if this person is a kicker, you will get kicked. You will listen to his Darth Vader symphony play throughout the night if he grinds his teeth. If he gets up to go to the bathroom three times a night, then you will open your eyes three times at night to see his ass glowing with the bathroom light. The cuddling stops once everyone reaches their REM, and real nighttime habits begin. Sleeping in my hand picked plush mattress with the right amount of firmness for my back its the best, not having to share it, even better.
2. You don’t have to share food in the restaurant. I don’t know where this trend began, but it has got to stop! If I order something in the restaurant, I want to eat that dish, not because I want to share it with you. The whole reaching for my plate to take a bite, it’s not romantic to me, it’s unnerving. It makes me cringe to think that before I eat my salad, you may have eaten the best part of my main course before I had a chance to taste it. If I order something at a restaurant, it is because I want to have it, not because I want you to have it first and then give me sloppy seconds of what I ordered later.
3. Zero wait time to go out. I like to be on time, and I like to have a plan. I don’t appreciate it when a guy tells me he’ll arrive at 1:00 PM and arrives 30 minutes later. My time is precious, and my life does not revolve around one person. To me, lateness shows a lack of respect and laziness because they either procrastinated getting ready, didn’t plan their day accordingly, didn’t consider the traffic, or just didn’t care about my time.
4. Eating healthy. Let’s face it: most guys can eat anything or choose to eat anything without worrying about what it may do to their bodies. I also tend to date guys who are really into the gym, so they can eat anything and burn it off in their 3-hour gym session later. That is not my case; I need to watch what I eat and only have a specific amount of time to work out (not three hours). Going out with these guys and watching their plates became a test of my willpower, and I often lost. I would cave in and have the fatty meal I knew I shouldn’t have. Without their tempting, high-calorie, delicious plate next to mine, I can now choose to eat the salad, a healthier option, or only eat at home.
5. I get to work out more. Since I gained those 10 lbs from my lack of willpower and I have this extra time that I am not using on a boyfriend, I can now add it to my workout routine. Now, I can complete my gym session in the morning and add a small strength training session at home in the evenings. Watch those 10lbs melt off of me!
6. No presents are needed during holidays. Not having to figure out or decode what the other person likes or wants for holidays or special days is another great perk. When you first start seeing someone, knowing what to get them is hard because A. You don’t know them that well, B. You don’t want to over-do-it and scare him, and C. You don’t want to under-do-it and have him think you are cheap. So this can become a bit nerve-racking. The flip side is when you know someone for a long time, you run out of things to give them, or you can’t figure out what he already has in his life, so you won’t double-gift him.
7. I can have more me-time. Let’s face it: when a new man enters one’s life, something has to give. You only have a set amount of time for your to-do things in a day, so the other activities get cut short a bit when something new enters. One of those activities that was cut short was my me-time. Now that I am not jumping from one thing to the next, texting or video messaging the other person, I have regained that. With this time, I can go to the spa, meditate, or binge-watch KUWTK without judgment.
8. I can watch whatever I want on the TV. You know, sometimes Netflix and chill can become a bit of a hassle when the Netflix part is overtaken by testosterone-fueled options, and you get stuck feigning interest until you get to the chill part. I am just complaining about the Netflix part of this deal, not the chill part; the chill part was always good.
9. I can wake up and sleep when I want. I am an early bird, so I like to go to bed and wake up early. That was not the case with my opposites-attract night owl. We were on two different schedules, and I gave up on mine. Let me tell you something: an early bird CANNOT become a night owl! Now that I have regained my sleep cycle, I won’t need to take naps during the day to stay up later or force myself to remain in bed, so I won’t wake him. I can wake up at 6 in the morning, turn my lights on, open up my laptop, and get to work without tip-toeing around.
10. I can do whatever I want! That’s the freeing part. Let’s be real: in a relationship, there are compromises to be made for two people to be happy, and looking back, I may have over-compromised to the point where I lost myself and became unhappy. Now, I know better for future reference, but I am enjoying my compromise-free zone. I can say what I want to say, eat what I want, and do what I want without considering someone else’s opinions or feelings. Now, it is all about me, and that makes me happy!
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XOXO Johanny
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