So, I’ve been devouring Jada Pinkett-Smith’s latest memoir, “Worthy,” and guess what? This book is serving way more than just tea—it’s an entire course in self-awareness! Each chapter graciously ends with life tips and empowering reflections. Honestly, considering this is coming from one of the iconic matriarchs of Red Table Talk, I shouldn’t have been surprised. Yet, here I am, totally geeking out.

The Savior Syndrome

One particular passage in “Worthy” got me seriously reflecting on my own life. Jada warns against the trap of romanticizing your partner as some kind of ‘savior.’ And let’s be real, we’ve all been there—the honeymoon phase fades, and those same inner demons resurface, now just dressed in less shiny outfits. ✨

Lessons from My Own Love Life

This got me reminiscing about a pivotal conversation with my soon-to-be hubby. I told him point-blank: “You are responsible for your own happiness.” His expression? Priceless. But hey, delivering truth bombs is sort of my jam. n

My Seven-Year Road to Self-Discovery

You see, I’d taken a seven-year celibacy journey to heal from past traumas and figure myself out. And in that time, I learned some non-negotiable truths. For one, the concept of sacrificing yourself for another person’s happiness is a flawed blueprint for love. It’s not sustainable. It’s not fair. And it’s definitely not love. ‍♀️❤️n

The Real Definition of Love

My Taurus guy had a meat-and-potatoes approach to emotional matters. He believed love meant being everything for your partner. I had to reframe that perspective for him. True love should be a win-win game—a partnership where each person complements the other, where each is whole on their own.

Final Wisdom Nuggets

Jada Pinkett-Smith sums it up perfectly: Be extremely cautious about who you put that fairy-tale crown on. After all, the only warrior fit to slay your dragons is the one looking back at you in the mirror.

Until next time, keep reading and keep growing!