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How do you respond to “And why are you still single?”
After many question/answer situations with my male friends, I have come to the realization that I am still single because I am too independent. I am still single because I am too honest. I am still single because I am very loud. I am still single because I won’t settle.
I’ve been told that I need to allow the man to play the role of hero because that will make him feel like he is needed in my life. If I do everything on my own it will leave the guy with nothing. Yet I find myself wanting to do things for myself, to prove to myself that I still can. To not get comfortable depending on someone who could let me down. So I do and do some more things on my own. Then I am upfront and honest right front the start, often times having guys shaking their heads north and south vigorously. They agree with me! I think, but in the end I find out that the only one being honest was me 😞
I am loud because I like to be heard, I like to have fun, I like to be noticed. Some guys are not into that. So I CHOOSE to not settle until I find a guy who is not bothered or intimidated by my independence. Who chooses to complement my strengths with his own. Who knows that I need his company, love, respect, time and attention and not his bank, handy-man skills or mechanical skills. Who is not afraid to be honest and face life openly with me. Who does not mind my loud mouth because eventually he will need to meet my family and will realize that I am the quietest of them all. Lastly, one that will know that I didn’t need to settle, yet I chose him to be with me.